HOW TO CHEAT PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP (FOR FEMALES)

timism of the day: According to research infidelity is very common within the first year of a relationship and it is likely due to becoming an "anything goes" society where the indiscretions of public figures are practically daily news. Experts say if you don't want someone to stray take these actions to try and prevent it: 1. Infidelity rates are much higher among cohabiting couples because, in general, a couple that lives together is NOT as committed & most likely he is on the prowl. IF you cohabitate prior to marriage it is best to do it as a "TRIAL BASIS" IF it doesn't work, MOVE ON. IF a person feels trapped an affair can seem like an easy way out. 2. The internet is a slippery slope toward infidelity, as easy access to porn, pornography leads to an increase in anonymous sex, and FB where you have an abundance of Ex's and One night stands finding your partner, e-flirting can get out of hand quickly. Most that use the internet to have an affair are looking for sex, not intimacy. 3. It's important to vocalize your appreciation, recreate excitement, be spontaneous. 4. Make sex a priority, otherwise your partner will feel they have to look outside the relationship, some sex is better than no sex. 5. People who have commitment issues tend to feel more trapped with relationships, so they are more likely to use another person outside of the relationship as an intimacy blocker to keep themselves from getting too close to their partner. Warning signs to identify a person who is at high risk for straying: He has an extremely active sex life (including masturbation), He has a lot of female friends (in person or online), He has/had a lot of male friends who cheat, and he has parents (mom or dad) who cheated. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER KIND OF DAY

timism of the day: Today is one of those days where you've got to just put one foot in front of the other and trust that things will continue to be as they should be. Trust your mind, your instincts, your years of experience, and know that you know that you know in your KNOWER that you can do this, am doing this, am this, own this. If all else fails, you can always rely on the fact that you are a fallible human being (FHB) and it's NOT the end of the world. Don't worry, that won't happen, but it's good to know. Today i will rely on the fact that i know what i'm doing, settle in it, and let me happen. ThanX God for yet another day to serve you. Speak through me, give me favor, divine wisdon, spritual insight and timing, and most of all let me never forget that i am blessed. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

I DARE YOU

timism of the day: At a church meeting, a very wealthy man rose to tell the rest of those present about his Christian faith.



"I'm a millionaire," he said, "and I attribute it all to the rich blessings of God in my life. I remember that turning point in my faith. I had just earned my first dollar and I went to a church meeting that night. The speaker was a missionary who told about his work. I knew that I only had a dollar bill and I had to either give it all to God's work or give nothing at all. So at that moment, I decided to give my whole dollar to God. I believe that God blessed that decision, and that is why I am a rich man today."



When he finished and moved toward his seat, there was an awed silence as he sat down, a little old lady sitting in the same pew leaned over and said to him, "I dare you to do it again. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim"



Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

MY BASIC APPROACH TO PSYCHOTHERAPY

timism of the day: My basic approach to psychotherapy is to zero in, as quickly as possible, on the client's basic philosophy of life; to get them to see exactly what this is and how it is inevitably self-defeating; and to persuade them to work their ass off, cognitively, emotively and behaviorally, to profoundly change it. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it.

SPARE THE ROD SPOIL THE CHILD

timism of the day: Although the phrase, "Spare the rod and spoil the child," is not a Biblical text, there is no doubt that it reflects the meaning of two or three of the strongest Biblical Proverbs on child rearing.



These passages from the book of Proverbs read, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him." (Proverbs 13:24, King James Version, KJV) "Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him." (Proverbs 22:15, KJV) "Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. If you beat him with the rod you will save his life from Sheol" ("soul from hell" Authorized KJV). (Proverbs 23:13, 15, KJV)



All other Biblical texts which speak of child rearing, with the possible exception of Hebrews 12:6 which speaks of "chastising" ("scourging" in the Authorized KJV), use more general, positive terms such as "discipline," "nurture" and "train up."



There are those texts that would even seem to contradict the Proverbs texts, a primary example being Ephesians 6:4, "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the nurture and instruction of the Lord."



Professionals who daily must deal with child physical abuse uniformly speak of the fact that most physical abuse results from attempts to punish or control the child, which attempt has escalated to produce physical harm. For this reason, many are concerned when religions, on the basis of the above quoted passages, advocate the use of the rod.



One pediatrician who works with physically abused children in hospital emergency room situations has said, "I do not understand that quote from Proverbs which says, 'If you beat him with a rod he will not die.' The fact is, many do die."



All Biblical scholars, including fundamental Christian teachers, know that, on the surface, at least, there are apparent contradictions between various sections and books of scripture. However, the fundamental scholar, who believes in the literal inerrancy of the entire Biblical text, will resolve these by pointing out the differences of time, place and dispensation.



In the case of potential child abuse by physical beating, it becomes extremely important that such scholars do resolve these apparent discrepancies. Perhaps this could be done by pointing to the "New Covenant" emphasis upon the positive teachings which follow the model of Jesus' treatment of children, or of the apostle Paul's definition of love in I Corinthians 13. (Note: the reference here has been to Christian scholarship. It is of interest that there seems not to be as much emphasis on these "use of the rod" passages as justification for corporal punishment in the Jewish tradition which gave us these Proverbs.)



It is not the place of this discussion to deal with theological issues, however. The manner in which this is resolved theologically must be left to each parent. So what are you thoughts on spanking a child?

FUNNY THINGS I THOUGHT AS A CHILD

timism of the day: i used to think i could run faster when i got new tennis shoes. i used to think that the ratings for movies meant G-Good, PG-Pretty Good, R-Really happened, X-Sex. i used to think that since we had no fireplace growing up that i had to keep a door unlocked on Christmas night so Santa could get in. i believed something evil did in fact live underneath my bed so i would not sleep with my hands over the edge ever, to name a few.

FEAR OF PUNISHMENT

timism of the day: I guarantee that if the fear of punishment is the only reason that you believe you will not do something again that is not in your best interest, then I guarantee to you that you will do it again. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim