STIGMA

timism of the day: Are you having self-doubts today? This is common, your limited education, your father dying when you were young, your history of mental illness, an alcoholic parent, being raped, and guilt over a serious mistake you made in your teenage years. It is very important that you remember your past is over. Never build your future around your past. Jesus was born with a terrible stigma. His mother Mary, was pregnant with Him before she ever married Joseph, His father. The Bible says that they had not had a sexual relationship, but, “that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost” (Matt. 1:20). Only two people in the world really knew that Mary was a virgin: God and Mary. Undoubtedly, hundreds of people mocked and sneered at Joseph for marrying Mary. Jesus grew up with this. He stepped out of a cesspool of human scorn. He clawed His way out of a pit of questions. He ignored the slanderous remarks. He knew the truth. He knew who He was and what He was about. It did not matter that others did not believe. He chose to chart His own course. The opinions of others did not matter. God never consults your past to determine your future. He never looked back. He never discussed the situation with anyone. There is not a single Scripture in the entire Bible where He ever brought up His background or His limitations. You too, can move beyond the scars of yesterday. Stop talking about your limited education. Quit complaining that everyone in your family is poor. Stop repeating stories of those who failed you. Stop pointing your fingers at the economy. Stop advertising your pain. Stop meditating on your flaws. Everyone has limitations. Each of us are handicapped in some way. Physically. Emotionally. Mentally. Spiritually. Stop looking at where you have been and start looking at where you are going. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

KEEP IT SIMPLE

timtomFoolery of the day: Joe has been seeing a psychoanalyst for four years for treatment of the fear that he had monsters under his bed. It had been years since he had gotten a good night's sleep. Furthermore, his progress was very poor, and he knew it. So, one day he stops seeing the psychoanalyst and decides to try something different. A few weeks later, Joe's former psychoanalyst meets his old client in the supermarket, and is surprised to find him looking well-rested, energetic, and cheerful. "Doc!" Joe says, "It's amazing! I'm cured!" "That's great news!" the psychoanalyst says. "you seem to be doing much better. How?" "I went to see another doctor," Joe says enthusiastically, "and he cured me in just ONE session!" "One?!" the psychoanalyst asks incredulously. "Yeah," continues Joe, "my new doctor is a behaviorist." "A behaviorist?" the psychoanalyst asks. "How did he cure you in one session?" "Oh, easy," says Joe. "He told me to cut the legs off of my bed." Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

WHALES

timtomFoolery of the day: The other night, i was out and overheard three heavyset women talking with Scottish accents. Curiously, since i had been to Scotland, i approached them and inquired if they were from Scotland and one said loudly,"No, you lakey, we're from Wales!" So, trying to be polite, i asked, "So, have you three whales ever been to Scotland?" ...and that's all i remember. Just sayin.

HOW TO CHEAT PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP (FOR FEMALES)

timism of the day: According to research infidelity is very common within the first year of a relationship and it is likely due to becoming an "anything goes" society where the indiscretions of public figures are practically daily news. Experts say if you don't want someone to stray take these actions to try and prevent it: 1. Infidelity rates are much higher among cohabiting couples because, in general, a couple that lives together is NOT as committed & most likely he is on the prowl. IF you cohabitate prior to marriage it is best to do it as a "TRIAL BASIS" IF it doesn't work, MOVE ON. IF a person feels trapped an affair can seem like an easy way out. 2. The internet is a slippery slope toward infidelity, as easy access to porn, pornography leads to an increase in anonymous sex, and FB where you have an abundance of Ex's and One night stands finding your partner, e-flirting can get out of hand quickly. Most that use the internet to have an affair are looking for sex, not intimacy. 3. It's important to vocalize your appreciation, recreate excitement, be spontaneous. 4. Make sex a priority, otherwise your partner will feel they have to look outside the relationship, some sex is better than no sex. 5. People who have commitment issues tend to feel more trapped with relationships, so they are more likely to use another person outside of the relationship as an intimacy blocker to keep themselves from getting too close to their partner. Warning signs to identify a person who is at high risk for straying: He has an extremely active sex life (including masturbation), He has a lot of female friends (in person or online), He has/had a lot of male friends who cheat, and he has parents (mom or dad) who cheated. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER KIND OF DAY

timism of the day: Today is one of those days where you've got to just put one foot in front of the other and trust that things will continue to be as they should be. Trust your mind, your instincts, your years of experience, and know that you know that you know in your KNOWER that you can do this, am doing this, am this, own this. If all else fails, you can always rely on the fact that you are a fallible human being (FHB) and it's NOT the end of the world. Don't worry, that won't happen, but it's good to know. Today i will rely on the fact that i know what i'm doing, settle in it, and let me happen. ThanX God for yet another day to serve you. Speak through me, give me favor, divine wisdon, spritual insight and timing, and most of all let me never forget that i am blessed. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

I DARE YOU

timism of the day: At a church meeting, a very wealthy man rose to tell the rest of those present about his Christian faith.



"I'm a millionaire," he said, "and I attribute it all to the rich blessings of God in my life. I remember that turning point in my faith. I had just earned my first dollar and I went to a church meeting that night. The speaker was a missionary who told about his work. I knew that I only had a dollar bill and I had to either give it all to God's work or give nothing at all. So at that moment, I decided to give my whole dollar to God. I believe that God blessed that decision, and that is why I am a rich man today."



When he finished and moved toward his seat, there was an awed silence as he sat down, a little old lady sitting in the same pew leaned over and said to him, "I dare you to do it again. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim"



Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it. tim

MY BASIC APPROACH TO PSYCHOTHERAPY

timism of the day: My basic approach to psychotherapy is to zero in, as quickly as possible, on the client's basic philosophy of life; to get them to see exactly what this is and how it is inevitably self-defeating; and to persuade them to work their ass off, cognitively, emotively and behaviorally, to profoundly change it. Just sayin. Take it. Test it. Teach it.